It has been quite clear for some time that humanity needs a better work-life balance. We need more time for health, pleasure, leisure, family and personal development. My inbox is full of emails on the topic of self-care: clean eating challenges, wellness retreats, and fitness goals. Fashion retailers are even promoting the movement, with one in particular advertising “The Wellness Movement” to sell a wide variety of sportswear for a variety of athletics. It’s refreshing to watch, and so much better than getting spammed with proposals and get-rich-quick schemes from singles in my area. However, it can also be a bit overwhelming when it comes to deciding what to tackle first and how to make self-care a regular part of our lives.
Self-care is especially important for moms. We constantly worry about others and let our own needs suffer. When we practice the basics of self-care, our mood improves, stress levels drop, we are more positive, and we have a better work-life balance. It also helps us feel more connected to ourselves and the world around us. Self-care is taking the time to do things that nurture you. It’s about taking proper care of yourself and treating yourself with the same kindness that you treat others.
How to make it happen
Most moms have a pretty good idea of what they want to focus on, but if you need help identifying your own self-care needs, take a few minutes to reflect on the different areas of your life: emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual. and ask yourself how you feel about each one. Which areas can you improve immediately, and which will require a little more effort? It can be helpful to write down your thoughts in a journal or planner.
On a daily basis, take five minutes to do something just for yourself in one of the areas you have selected, something that gives you a sense of well-being or comfort, like sipping your favorite cup of tea while flipping through a magazine. or doing a crossword puzzle. If you have more time to spend, that’s a bonus, but five minutes on a regular basis will go a long way. Set a reminder on your device or in your calendar.
Plan ahead for other bigger events that are just for you, like a monthly spa appointment by yourself or with a friend, an annual yoga retreat, or a bike trip with the girls, and don’t stop there. Schedule exercise classes, coffee dates, and walks with friends, and be sure to put it on your daily timer. If you don’t prioritize it like all your other responsibilities, it won’t happen!
Examples of self-care
It is different for everyone depending on where you want to focus most of your energy (emotional, physical, etc.) but the following list will give you some good inspiration for self-care.
Listen to the music you enjoy or try journaling.
Learn something new – try a pottery workshop, photography, acting, and more.
Take a relaxing bath or nap during the day.
Join a dance class or running group.
Meditate for a few minutes every day.
Spend time in nature.
Talk openly with a trusted friend.
Buy yourself a small gift to enjoy while you take care of yourself, such as a tea, a scented candle, or flowers.
While it doesn’t seem like our world is slowing down anytime soon, we can do our part to ensure we have more balance in our lives. Take time for self-care and treat yourself like a valuable person – you deserve it! Now I am going to enjoy the fourth day of my 21 day yoga challenge. Namaste.