People say that relationships are about give and take. You even hear about the need to compromise. I assume you compromise by giving in so you can come back later.
The 28th reason you can’t find love is because you go into a relationship with your hand out and nothing in it. In other words, you are the taker. While you drink, you offer as little as possible. In fact, you can tell the person that they should be lucky to have you in their life. With that mindset, you think there is no need for you to offer anything. Your mere presence is enough for the relationship to work.
The funny thing is that many women will say that this is how they feel in relationships. They say they give, give, give. They by their heart and soul become a man and receive nothing in return.
However, the only reason the relationship exists is because the man made it happen. It was his commitment that made it happen.
On the other hand, many men will say that they give, give, give. Men go out and receive hard-earned money in exchange for their mental or physical labor. After receiving their money, women expect men to invest that money in her. Since the money is for investment, what is the return on your investment? In return, she gets something that she got for free. In most cases, the human needs of man go unnoticed. How is that possible? How can 2 people claim that they are giving everything and receiving very little?
Is it possible that they are both receiving an exact reflection of what they give? Or do people have such fantasies about relationships that their expectations have nothing to do with a relationship? Or is it that they have no idea what they have to give in order to receive the fantasy expectations they have?
There’s a saying. You only get out of it what you put into it. You can’t take out more than you put in. If people stop expecting the other to go first, they may discover that there is much more available in their relationships than they realize. They just have to start working.