Sometimes I dialogue with women who have begun to grudgingly accept that the commitment they so crave will not come as soon as they hoped, if at all. Sometimes the man in question is slow to discuss the engagement, or will change the subject, or agree to discuss it in the future. But whatever strategy he’s using, he made it clear that he won’t be proposing or committing anytime soon.
Needless to say, this often doesn’t sit well with the woman who wants this commitment more than anything. Often, you think you have waited with some patience. And she believes that the relationship is the right one at the right time. So understandably, she may feel resentful that he won’t commit. And you may start to wonder what’s in it for her in all of this. After all, she is giving herself. You are getting what you want. What is presumably a happy relationship that includes a healthy sex life. But she’s not getting the simple compromise she wants. This often leads her to wonder if she should give him less of what he wants (sex) until he gets more of what he wants (commitment).
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You might hear someone say, “I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over two years. We’re not that young. He knows I want to get married. We’ve talked about this for months. At first, he told me it would eventually happen. But Lately, he’s regressed from this stance. Now he’s just saying he’ll let me know when he’s ready to commit or when he’s ready to discuss this again. But until then, he says I should back off. I love him so much, but this makes me mad at him. I feel like he’s being stubborn. Because I know that he loves me. And I know that he’s going to be with me. And I know that he’s faithful to me. So, I feel like he’s determined not to give me what I want. And that makes me determined to not giving him what he wants. I am honestly considering not having sex with him just to show him what it would be like without me. My mom always said a man wouldn’t buy the cow if he gets the milk for free. Maybe she was onto something all the time. weather “.
This is a very common question and you will hear tons of different opinions on it. What I am about to share is just that, just my opinion, which is based on what I often see working and not working. I understand the reasoning behind this. I really do. But, most men see this as a form of manipulation and most don’t take it very well. There is a risk here that he will do something to fight back, and before you know it, not only are you not in the commitment, but you are not in the relationship either.
Now, in some situations like this, the woman will look around her and realize that having sex when she is not married compromises who she knows she is. She then decides that she is not going to have sex, with him or with anyone, until she is married. This is a very different situation than not having sex just to try to get him to do what you wanted him to do.
I can’t tell you if this plan will work or even if you should. I can only point out that there is risk involved with that, just like there are always risks when you try to manipulate someone you love. And even if you give in, he likely always knows that you forced him to do it and that he did not voluntarily marry. I’m not sure this is a worthwhile risk.