These are not the droids you are looking for
To better visualize the control bad guys have over women, let’s review a classic Jedi mind trick scene from the original Star Wars. In this scene, Obi-Wan Kenobi, Luke Skywalker, and the droids are stopped by a group of stormtroopers, who are actually looking for these exact droids. But Obi-Wan sets the Jedi mind trick on the weak-minded stormtrooper and that’s all he wrote.
Assault soldier: Let me see some identification.
Obi-Wan magically waves his hand at the Storm Trooper.
Obi Wan: You do not need to see your ID.
The Storm Trooper seems stunned, so …
Assault soldier: We don’t need to see your ID.
Obi Wan: These are not the droids you are looking for.
Assault soldier: These are not the droids we are looking for.
Obi Wan: You can take care of your business.
Assault soldier: You can take care of your business.
Obi Wan: Get over.
Assault soldier: Get over. Get over.
Now keep in mind that not all women are stormtroopers and not all men have Jedi mental powers, but enough of each makes good men and friends of those women mystify why they stick with these guys. What do bad guys have that allows them to brainwash good women to stay, even when they know they shouldn’t?
The reason this happens is because bad guys are master manipulators who have learned the powerful technique of intermittent reinforcement (IR). You’ve probably heard of positive reinforcement (giving someone something they want when they do something good) and even negative reinforcement (taking something away from someone when they do something bad).
Well, IR is simply a combination of both, but at random intervals. To clarify, let’s look at the famous pigeon experiment.
There was a famous psychology experiment that locked a pigeon in a cage with a bar where it could peck for food. There were three different situations that the pigeon encountered. In the first, the pigeon never received food when it pecked at the bar. Obviously, it wasn’t long before she never pecked at him again. In the second, the pigeon was given food every time it pecked at the bar, and soon, unsurprisingly, it only pecked when it was hungry.
However, in the third situation, the pigeon would only get food. sometimes when he pecked at the bar. Here, the pigeon pecked at the bar all the time, frantically as if obsessed. Experimenters called this intermittent reinforcement and it has been shown to be an extremely powerful motivator for getting the kind of behavior you want from someone.
How bad boys control women
The bad boys, through the masterful use of infrared, are able to treat women like garbage, knowing full well that they are going nowhere. This is how they do it.
The first thing bad guys do is establish a pattern of positive reinforcement. They treat their wife like a queen and give her everything she wants (passion, love, money, etc.). This is the most important step, because this will determine how much control he will have later on. Many times the bad boy is the sweetest and most interesting person the woman has ever met. This is the hook. Then, at the first sign that she takes his kindness for granted, he stops and instantly withdraws her. The woman then struggles to regain this kindness and he has it.
Like pigeons, humans cannot resist infrared rays either. When someone treats a person well all the time, they will invariably start to take that behavior for granted. So when a man is always kind and sweet to his woman, he becomes expected of the. She always knows exactly what she is going to get. There is no mystery there and, like it or not, the mystery is interesting.
When a bad boy withdraws his goodness, it is mind control. It is like that pigeon pecking at the pole, because the woman is now obsessed with getting that food again, in this case the food is her “good side”. When the bad boy feels like he’s starting to lose her, he simply re-activates the spell, but only until she takes it for granted again, then he washes, rinses, and repeats. This is the true Jedi mind trick bad guys use and it’s how they always seem to catch (and hold) women.
People want what they can’t have
It is human nature that we want things that we cannot have and we take things that are easily obtained for granted, no matter how good they may be. This is the trait that makes us want things we can’t afford or go after women who are out of our league. It’s the same trait that makes good women stick with the bad guys and ignore the good guys.
Bad guys always have the mentality that “I can take you or leave you, either way is not a big deal”. They flirt with other women, have many friends, and ignore their phone calls from time to time. Because of all this, his wife begins to doubt whether or not she can really have it.
Think about your old relationships (or your current one). I bet there was someone you could never get over, even though it was obviously bad for you. I bet that person was cool sometimes! Maybe they were fun, funny, and amazing in bed. But other times, they had some serious issues that made you want to leave and yet you stayed. Even after they finally parted ways, he still thought about them, didn’t he?
If you felt like you went out of your way to please them and it was never enough, then now you understand the power of intermittent reinforcement.
Now that you understand what intermittent reinforcement is, the next time you come across a stormtrooper-looking woman who is being controlled with a mind trick from Obi-Wan, send her this article. Have him take off that stormtrooper mask and incorporate his own powers.
The power to recognize, reject and release.
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