You’re going to get all kinds of answers to that question. Obviously the people who love you the most are going to tell you that your ex’s lack of interest in you is a clear sign that he has gotten over you. Some friends may say that you can definitely win them back if you recapture their interest by having a mini meltdown and making your ex feel guilty. The answer you’re desperately looking for is that you can get your ex back without playing a bunch of immature games. Actually you can. Regardless of how uninterested he seems at the moment, you can win his heart back.
Before trying to contact your ex again, there are a few things to keep in mind. Just as you are struggling after the breakup, it is quite possible that your ex is doing the same. We all handle emotionally stressful situations a little differently. Some of us need and want constant contact with the person we broke up with. We want to be able to talk to them so that we can resolve the issues at hand and restore the relationship.
For other people, they have to withdraw into themselves to absorb what happened. The last thing they want is to talk. To your former partner, that kind of behavior can easily be mistaken for a lack of interest. This very well could be what is going on right now with your ex.
Call your ex and ask how he is. Your tone during this conversation should be upbeat and positive. This is not a call for you to rekindle the lost romance by delving into what went wrong and what you can do to fix things. This call is solely for you to talk to your ex about how he is doing with her and reconnect on a friend level. Nothing else. Any conversation about your past relationship is strictly prohibited.
Your ex may or may not be receptive to you contacting him. They may say they are not ready to talk. In that case, he respects that. He’ll try again in a few weeks by sending an email or text asking how they’re doing.
If your ex seems happy to hear from you, take advantage of that, but do it slowly. Right now, your focus should be on restoring a connection with your ex. This has to be done at a pace they feel comfortable with. If you push too hard, you’ll push them away.
Remember that your ex once adored you. There are things about you that they loved very much. Focus on showing them that you’re still the same person no matter what happened between the two of you. Slowly and steadily, the two of you will grow closer again if you stay the course and don’t expect too much too soon.